I had the most amazing experience two nights ago. My friend Kelli and I organized about 35 women for a night of activities designed to help us start off the New Year choosing happiness and kicking the general state of depression many of us have been experiencing for the last few years.
It started out as a typical girl talk between me and Kelli. We have had our own struggles these past few years, but her being in real estate and me working in finance has given us a bird’s eye view of the misery faced by our clients, our neighbors, our friends, and our families.
And quite frankly, we decided we were totally sick of it.
So Kelli said that wouldn’t it be wonderful if we got together all of the fabulous women we know to do the one thing we do better than men – and let’s face it that most men are incapable of doing at all: sharing feelings and talking. And more than that we’d do silly things to encourage each other to leave the bad parts of 2011 in the past and focus on being positive and happy in 2012.
Three weeks later I’m at Kelli’s house with 35 women choosing guide words for 2012 (like strength, release, and harmony) , fortunes for 2012 (Kelli had saved all the good ones from fortune cookies over the years), and writing down our commitments to ourselves for the next year. There was even a pen and paper to write down what we wanted to leave in 2011 and a shredder next to it shred it – literally and symbolically!
The night featured the local head of Fresh Start talking about their mentoring program. Fresh Start is an organization designed to help women who are struggling to get their lives back on track. No better way to feel better about yourself than to give back to someone else who needs a helping hand!
And what would a girl’s night be without wine! So of course, we ended the night with a wine tasting given by our local wine store owner, Laura of Vino 100.
It was a fun and festive night of empowerment that has made me look forward to rocking it in 2012!
I challenge each of you – men and women – to start your own positivity revolution. Because let’s face it there’s not a politician out there who is going to lead us out of this crises of faith, we can’t count on the media to play to our better angels, and there is no magic that will pull us out of our national funk!
We have to recognize that WE are our own solution.
So start planning how you are going to choose happiness! Become a self-rescuing princess. And let me know how it goes!
The email alert for this post was “Women Seeking Women”….I excitedly clicked on it ….and… instant cold shower….whatever happened to truth in advertising?…..Next year I’d suggest saying….. “We ended the evening with a 45-minute Positive Pillow Fight wearing only our bra and panties….”….even if it doesn’t really happen.
Peter I did the exact same thing. Very sad. Nonetheless, I’m going to keep an eye on this site…just in case.
ditto to that Peter and Andrew.
I like this blog. Stay at home dad here.
Bra and pantie pillow fight request has been noted.
This is a great way to revitalize yourself. It is a new year and a new start to LIVE and not just exist.
The Working Mommy’s Manual is lively, informative and funny. Written by a mother who has learned from experience.
I am truly happy to have checked out your blog as I am a “newly working” mom and have been struggling with immense guilt. I feel fortunate to have been a stay at home mom for 12 years with my 3 kids but times are tough and it became necessary for me to get a job. I have panick attacks that I am missing the only years that I have left with my kids needing or wanting me, after all 15 years has flown by and I am sure that the next 9 will too (this is when my youngest will turn 18). But if I were perfectly honest with myself, I wasn’t a very good at home mom, meaning, I was not the type to do arts and crafts or cook with my kids, I feel like I was always cleaning and re-arranging rooms! I am however turning out to be a really good working mother, I’ve been excelling at work and one of my sisters commented recently that I’ve completly changed in the past two years, seeming more confident and happy. I really needed to hear that, but what I also need is support and encouragement from other working moms like me, so please, keep writing…
Wow. Great idea! I’m doing this. But mid-January. It’s never too late for a fresh start!
That’s a really great New Year’s (or any other time, like the New Moon) ritual for banishing the things that no longer serve you. A very modern-day take on it with the shredder.
Rebekah, hang in there! I have never been lucky enough to have ever been a stay at home mom, though I probably wouldn’t have been that good at it!. I, too, would have spent more time cleaning, rearranging and organizing than playing. When I pull in the garage, I can hear my two year old banging the door down, sweetly screaming “mommy’s home”. Hungs and kisses from all 3 kids tonight, plus my husband just because I was home-NOT-it was really because I brought home IN-N-OUT Burger! I was fine with that, too. There was a time when I would have only felt guilt. Now, the sooner we eat the more time is left to hang out. Heck, it took me 2 weeks just to post this blog, no lunches to make for tomorrow or homework-yey-and baseball isn’t until 4:30. No alarm tomorrow, already a good start.
Let’s go girl, I sure wish someone would have warned me of some of the potential pitfalls as a new home. Having a 12 and 10 year old plus the 2 yr-and to think I am a bit of a control freak-how did this little angel appear
Peter, some chocolate chip cookies and something fruity to drink, and I might be ready for the pillow fight as well!